With a title like 'The number between her legs', it is not hard to guess what the book may be about, however, it surpasses expectations of just another woman speaking on the issue of double standards and sexual liberation. Rather, with a unique edginess Oloni engages the reader with her use of relevant and relatable stories which can be used as examples to demonstrate a point being made.
'The number between her legs' starts off with Oloni painting the picture of a girls night in, without giving too much away, I was drawn into the story and almost felt like a part of the conversation. From the first few pages the concept of the book is outlined and as it develops the desire to continue reading becomes natural. The book is set out in short chapters with plenty of content but is easy on the eye and easily digestible in small bite sized paragraphs. With only 19 pages it is an easy read and the key points are stressed constantly throughout the book, so it will get you thinking at the very least!
Reading it as a man, it gives an insight into the world of women and why some may lie or fabricate things around the topic of 'the number between her legs'. The book also questions societies perception on promiscuity, sexual liberation and self worth. By breaking down each concept/term presented and explaining each in a dynamic way, Oloni challenges the ways readers may have thought about this topic previously. With delicate attention to detail Oloni presents a mature outlook on what society often has so much to say about.
What particularly hooked me was the use of statistics and evidence of the research which went into the development of the book. Statistics and quotes bring to life the perception and feelings of women who are most affected by the ideology that a high number of sexual partners devalues a woman. Being able to understand how some women feel when asked about 'the number between her legs' calls us to ask the question, 'does it matter?'
No book about sex can be complete without speaking on the part men play. By drawing comparisons between the way society perceives sexual activity for men and women, the topic of equality and sexual freedom is subtly addressed. At no point is male bashing used to make a point, which would have made me put the book down! In fact when discussing the concept of 'slut shaming' she speaks on how cruel women can be towards each other, which is an interesting angle to take in an attempt to highlight the need for unity and support amongst females.
In exploring key issues surrounding self worth, double standards, living in a patriarchal society, Oloni addresses the problems caused by society's attitudes towards sex and women.
An interesting, edgy and enthusiastic read, be sure to grab yourself a copy!
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